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Write a Letter.
Change a Life.
Somewhere behind a prison wall, there is a person who has not heard from anyone outside in years. Maybe decades. They wake up every day in a system that was never designed to see their humanity — only their crime.
You can change that with a letter.
Back Against the Bars offers a trusted, verified inmate pen pal and prison matchmaking platform connecting incarcerated men and women with people in the free world who believe in connection, second chances, and the enduring power of human communication.
Inmate Pen Pal Program
Our pen pal program is the most accessible way to connect with an incarcerated individual. Once you subscribe, you gain access to verified inmate profiles complete with photos, personal bios, interests, and background information — shared safely on our platform and amplified across our social media channels.
What writing to an inmate can do:
- Reduce the crushing isolation that damages mental health and fuels recidivism
- Provide motivation and a sense of purpose during incarceration
- Encourage accountability, reflection, and personal growth
- Give an incarcerated person someone who sees them as a full human being
- Give you perspective, empathy, and a meaningful connection you will carry for life
No prior experience is needed. We guide you through the process from profile browsing to your first letter. All you need to bring is honesty, an open heart, and respect.
[NOTE] Who writes in? Advocates, retired professionals, students, faith communities, curious individuals who believe every person deserves to be heard.
Prison Matchmaking for Serious, Meaningful Relationships
Love is not confined by prison walls. Many of the most profound relationships begin through letters — built on words, authenticity, and real emotional depth rather than surface-level attraction.
- Our prison matchmaking service is designed for individuals on both sides — incarcerated and free — who are open to genuine romantic connection. We do not facilitate anything casual. We focus on:
- Shared values and long-term compatibility
- Clear, honest communication from the very first introduction
- Realistic expectations about the nature of a relationship while someone is incarcerated
- Mutual respect — always
Many of the individuals on our platform have had years — sometimes decades — to reflect on who they are, what they want, and what kind of partner they hope to find. They are thoughtful, patient, and deeply committed to making a connection that lasts.
If you are open to a relationship that starts with conversation and grows through trust, our matchmaking service is for you.
Submit a Profile
Are you incarcerated, or do you have a loved one who is? Submitting a profile is the first step to connecting with the outside world.
Family members and loved ones can submit on behalf of an incarcerated individual. Once submitted, profiles are reviewed for safety and accuracy before being published on our platform.
We treat every profile with dignity. This is not a novelty — it is an opportunity for real human connection.